Next time ….
posted in Personal Development, The Law of Attraction, Bob Proctor, Motivation, Inspiration, Success, Self Improvement, Dream, Goal, Law of Attraction, Enthusiasm, Positive Thinking, Life, Power, mindset, believes, belief |A psychiatrist with many years of clinical experience went into retirement and wrote a book about treatment of psychological illnesses. The book had over 1000 pages containing details of all kinds of such illnesses, each followed by a comprehensive description of the medication and treatment for it.
Once, the psychiatrist was invited to give a lecture at a university. At the lecture, he took out his book, showed it to the audience and said, ‘there are over 1000 pages in this book with over 3000 methods of treatment and over 10000 kinds of medication. However, the entire content in this book can be zipped into 4 words.’ He then wrote on the white board, ‘If, Next time’.
He said, ‘that which consumed and tortured our brain is no other than the word ‘If’ – ‘if I had made it to the university’, ‘if I hadn’t given her up in the past’, ‘if I had changed my job at that time’……. There are thousands of methods of treatment but at the end there is only one way and that’s to change ‘if’ to ‘next time’ – ‘I’ll pursue further studies if I have a chance next time’, ‘I won’t give up my love again next time’…… that which causes a person to have psychological barrier affecting his/her happiness is sometimes not material poverty or wealth but his mentality. If one keeps sinking himself in regrets and sorrow of the past, pain will surely occupy his entire heart.’
There is an interesting story that goes like this:
There are 2 types of people in this world. When a bunch of grapes is at hand, one type of people will choose the best ones to eat first whereas the other type will leave the best ones to eat last. However, these 2 types of people are not happy at all. Those who eat the best grapes first find his grape getting worse and worse. The second type of people feels that every grape that he eats is the worst from the grapes that are left. The reason is the first type of people has memory of the past only. He often uses things in the past to measure the present. He is therefore unhappy. The second type of people is the opposite. He has memory of the present only. He too is unhappy.
What not think of it this way? I have already eaten the best grape. What is there to regret then? The grape that I leave behind is always the best compared to the past. Why feel unhappy about it?
A person’s attitude towards life determines his happiness and sadness.
